Saturday, 27 March 2010

FREE 2 Hour Session on "Joy, Peace and Wisdom" in Relationships

April 3rd, 5.15 pm to 7.30 pm in Gurgaon. Our greatest happiness and suffering often arises in the area of our relationships. How can we bring greater joy, peace and wisdom to this important aspect of our life? We invite you to explore this subject in a lighthearted and insightful manner with Nithya Shanti. Please confirm here to reserve your seat.

All contact details in the previous note. Call or email ahead of time. All are welcome.

Tuesday, 23 March 2010

Relationships Joyshop on April 4th in Gurgaon


Our greatest happiness and suffering often arises in the arena of our relationships. How can we bring greater joy, peace and wisdom to this important aspect of our life? We invite you to explore this subject in a lighthearted, insightful and experiential ‘joyshop’ with Nithya Shanti.

Together we will learn practical principles that will help us transform our relationships into vibrant spiritual partnerships. We will discover why talking is not enough to transform a marriage / other close relationship and learn powerful new ways to express our love in appropriate ways. The teaching shared is based on ancient wisdom as well as decades of counseling experience from some of the most respected authorities in the field of relationships.

This is a precious opportunity to learn powerful principles that may otherwise take us decades to gather on our own.


What Is Spiritual Partnership
The Importance of Gratitude
Loving Action 1: Adopt a Spirit of Good Will
Loving Action 2: Give Up Problem Solving
Loving Action 3: Act as If
Loving Action 4: Practice Restraint
Loving Action 5: Balance Giving and Taking
Loving Action 6: Act on Your Own
Loving Action 7: Practice Acceptance
Loving Action 8: Practice Compassion
Love Language 1: Words of Affirmation
Love Language 2: Quality Time
Love Language 3: Acts of Service
Love Language 4: Gifts
Love Language 5: Physical touch
How to Apologize in a way that Heals
A Technique for Releasing Stress and Negativity
Twenty One Day Homework
Conclusion & Feedback

Couples, family members and anyone above the age of fifteen who is eager to learn lifelong relationship skills will benefit from this joyshop. The whole experience is designed to create a fresh enthusiasm, commitment and confidence in awakening Joy, Peace and Wisdom in Relationships.
Our intention is for this to be a deeply healing and transformational program.

Date & Time: Sunday 4th April, 2010 from 10am to 7pm
Venue: 1604, Tower 2, The Palms, South City I, Gurgaon 122001 (Please park your car outside the society)
Investment: Rs. 2,500/- per participant. Rs. 2,000/- per participant of the same family. This covers participant materials, audio CD, lunch & snacks. Please pay in cash at the venue.
Contact Nandini: Tel: 0124-4240526; +91-9871620526;
Limited Seats: There are limited seats. To ensure you have a place, please register early!

Thursday, 18 March 2010

Why Letting Go Works

Many of us were taught to focus relentlessly on the problems we have in order to solve them. In fact, the opposite works. When we focus intensely on the energy of the problem, it can’t get solved because we are in the vibration of the problem, a completely different frequency than the vibration of the solution.

Are you afraid to “let go” of the problem you are focused on? I know that problems and challenges “grab” our attention, they are very good at that. But we need to find new ways to focus if we are going to have any relief from these challenges. I used to feel afraid that if I’m not monitoring one of my problems, it won’t get fixed or solved. But now I know the opposite is true!

Problems can’t get solved when you are focused
on the vibration of the problem… You must be a
vibrational match to the solution in order
for solutions to appear!

When you have been intensely focused on solving a problem, what can you do to change your vibration and release this focus about the issue? Find ways to help you let go, energetically, of the problem:

(1) Focus on gratitude
(2) Use EFT/ Meridian Tapping on your frustration
(3) Get a change of scene – just do something else!
(4) Relax and meditate

These are just a few of the many options you have to getting yourself out of the way so the solution can present itself to you. Remember, the energy of the solution needs room… and if you’re squeezing it out by focusing all your energy on the dynamics of the problem, the solution can’t show up for you.

So when you feel as if you are wrestling with a really big problem, I invite you to start practicing new behaviors in order to allow the solution to come into your life. It won’t come into your life until you let go of the energy of the problem.

Letting Go works because it:

(1) Releases resistance and tension immediately
(2) Raises your vibration
(3) Allows you to access more creativity
(4) Releases “stuck” energy and opens up new options

Remember, the solution may come from an insight, a burst of creativity, or from an outside source. Regardless of where it comes from, it needs to “see you” as having a frequency that matches it. (Yes, I am talking about solutions as if they have personalities, it’s useful in this discussion!) So, to allow the solution in to your consciousness or awareness,

(1) Focus on anything BUT the problem.
(2) Tap to release any compulsion you feel to focus on the energy of the problem.
(3) Write an appreciation list of other solutions you have experienced in your life.
(4) Act as if (and write a Thank you Universe list) you have already received the solution.
(5) Relax…

Remember, the Law of Attraction sends you situations that have the same energy of the vibration you are paying attention to… so pay attention to possible solutions, or at least distract yourself from the energy of the problem, and you will find what you’re looking for.

Tuesday, 2 March 2010

The Sedona Method for Letting Go

Make yourself comfortable and focus inwardly. Your eyes may be open or closed.

Step 1: Focus on an issue that you would like to feel better about, and then allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling in this moment. This doesn’t have to be a strong feeling. In fact, you can even check on how you feel about this exercise and what you want to get from it. Just welcome the feeling and allow it to be as fully or as best you can.

This instruction may seem simplistic, but it needs to be. Most of us live in our thoughts, pictures, and stories about the past and the future, rather than being aware of how we actually feel in this moment. The only time that we can actually do anything about the way we feel (and, for that matter, about our businesses or our lives) is NOW. You don’t need to wait for a feeling to be strong before letting go. In fact, if you are feeling numb, flat, blank, cut off, or empty inside, those are feelings that can be let go of just as easily as the more recognizable ones. Simply do the best you can. The more you work with this process, the easier it will be for you to identify what you are feeling.

Step 2: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:

• Could I let this feeling go?
• Could I allow this feeling to be here?
• Could I welcome this feeling?

These questions are merely asking you if it is possible to take this action. “Yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers. You will often let go even if you say “no.” As best you can, answer the question that you choose with a minimum of thought, staying away from second-guessing yourself or getting into an internal debate about the merits of that action or its consequences.

All the questions used in this process are deliberately simple. They are not important in and of themselves but are designed to point you to the experience of letting go, to the experience of stopping holding on. Go on to Step 3 no matter how you answered the first question.

Step 3: No matter which question you started with, ask yourself this simple question: Would I? In other words: Am I willing to let go?

Again, stay away from debate as best you can. Also remember that you are always doing this process for yourself—for the purpose of gaining your own freedom and clarity. It doesn’t matter whether the feeling is justified, long-standing, or right.

If the answer is “no,” or if you are not sure, ask yourself: “Would I rather have this feeling, or would I rather be free?”

Even if the answer is still “no,” go on to Step 4.

Step 4: Ask yourself this simpler question: When?

This is an invitation to just let it go NOW. You may find yourself easily letting go. Remember that letting go is a decision you can make any time you choose.

Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of that particular feeling.

You will probably find yourself letting go a little more on each step of the process. The results at first may be quite subtle. Very quickly, if you are persistent, the results will get more and more noticeable. You may find that you have layers of feelings about a particular topic. However, what you let go of is gone for good.