Thursday, 25 November 2010

What it means to Grow Up

According to developmental psychologist, Erik Erikson, there are several psychosocial stages that we must successfully navigate in childhood in order to arrive at adulthood fully prepared for life. These tasks include: 1) learning to trust others, as well as in the overall goodness of our lives; 2) learning to operate as a separate, autonomous being; 3) learning to take appropriate risks that demonstrate initiative and ingenuity; 4) gaining a sense of competence and mastery regarding the basic challenges of life; and 5) developing a consistent personal identity. As long as we remain incomplete on any of these tasks, the development of a cohesive and solid sense of self is thwarted.

This much-desired “solid sense of self” includes:
1) the capacity to experience a wide variety of feelings, as well as an ability to soothe painful feelings in a positive way;
2) the ability to express your thoughts and feelings authentically to another person without too much fear of either being engulfed or abandoned;
3) the capacity to tolerate your own aloneness;
4) a healthy sense of entitlement that life holds good things for you and that you deserve to have them;
5) the ability to assert your individuality and authenticity in the world; and
6) a stability of self, meaning that you are always aware that you are the same person regardless of who you are with, what you are doing, or the current circumstances (both good and bad) of your life.

Wednesday, 10 November 2010

12 Ways to Turn Around a Terrible Day

We all have lousy days. You know the kind I mean — problem clients, cranky co-workers, bad evaluations or personal life stress collide and make for a really epic bad mood (and for some reason it always seems to be raining). So what can you do when the universe seems to conspire to make your life unpleasant? Gretchen Rubin, author ofThe Happiness Project, comes to the rescue with tips, and not just two or three. On her blog she offers a whopping 12 ways to deal with a terrible day (which is good, sometimes you need all the help you can get.)
  • Resist the urge to “treat” yourself. Often, the things we choose as “treats” aren’t good for us. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt, loss of control, and other negative consequences just deepen the lousiness of the day.
  • Do something nice for someone else. “Do good, feel good” – this really works. Be selfless, if only for selfish reasons.
  • Distract yourself. When my older daughter was born, she had to be in Neonatal Intensive Care for a week. I spent every hour at the hospital, until my husband dragged me away to go to an afternoon movie. I didn’t want to go, but afterward, I realized that I was much better able to cope with the situation after having had a bit of relief.
  • Seek inner peace through outer order. Soothe yourself by tackling a messy closet, an untidy desk, or crowded countertops. The sense of tangible progress, control, and orderliness can be a comfort.
  • Tell yourself, “Well, at least I…” Get some things accomplished. Yes, you had a horrible day, but at least you went to the gym, or played with your kids, or walked the dog, or recycled.
  • Exercise is an extremely effective mood booster – but be careful of exercise that allows you to ruminate. For example, if I go for a walk when I’m upset about something, I often end up feeling worse, because the walk provides me with uninterrupted time in which to dwell obsessively on my troubles.
  • Stay in contact. When you’re having a lousy day, it’s tempting to retreat into isolation. Studies show, though, that contact with other people boosts mood.
  • Things really will look brighter in the morning. Go to bed early and start the next day anew. Also, sleep deprivation puts a drag on mood in the best of circumstances, so a little extra sleep will do you good.
  • Remind yourself of your other identities. If you feel like a loser at work, send out a blast email to engage with college friends. If you think members of the PTA are mad at you, don’t miss the spinning class where everyone knows and likes you.
  • Keep perspective. Ask yourself: “Will this matter in a month? In a year?”
  • Write it down. When something horrible is consuming my mind, I find that if I write up a paragraph or two about the situation, I get immense relief.
  • Be grateful. Remind yourself that a lousy day isn’t acatastrophic day. Be grateful that you’re still on the “lousy” spectrum. Probably, things could be worse.

Monday, 1 November 2010

Mindfulness - Thich Nhat Hanh

Can you share with us how mindfulness plays a role in your everyday life?
Mindfulness makes life beautiful and meaningful. When I am mindful of my in-and-out breath and relax my whole body, I am in touch with how good it is to be alive. I am in touch with my state of health and feel grateful for everything that is going well in my body. Then with mindfulness I can be aware of the beauty of the sky, the smile of the flower, the singing of the birds. I can be deeply in touch with my own suffering and hold it with love and tenderness, rather than suppressing it or running from it. Because I can be truly present for myself, I can be truly present for those I live with, listening deeply to them and speaking words that inspire hope and self-confidence. In this way, I can bring joy to someone each morning and relieve the pain of someone each afternoon. 

Thursday, 23 September 2010

What I CAN Change

  • You can't change your entire life, you can only change your next action
  • You can't change a relationship with a loved one, you can only change your next interaction
  • You can't change your entire job, you can only change your next task
  • You can't change your body composition, you can only change your next meal
  • You can't change your fitness level, you can only start moving
  • You can't de-clutter your entire life, you can only choose to get rid of one thing right now
  • You can't eliminate your entire debt, you can only make one payment, or buy one less unnecessary item
  • You can't change the past, or control the future, you can only change what you are doing now
  • You can't change everything, you can only change one, small thing...and that's all it takes
Here are a few things you can do to practice living one-step-at-a-time: 
  1. Make a list of some of the things you want to change, alter, or improve in your life right now.  First of all, it's important to remember that none of these changes will, in and of themselves, make you happy (only you can do that for yourself).  That being said, positive change can be a wonderfully exciting and empowering thing for us to engage in and experience.  Identifying what you want to change specifically is an essential first step.
  2. With each of these important things you want to change, think of some simple, small steps you can take (today or this week) that will move you in the direction you truly want.  If you get stuck with any of them, ask for help.  And, if you start to get overwhelmed, take a break and remember to keep things simple.  These are what my friend Susan calls "micro-movements," don't let your ego take over and judge them as too small.
  3. Celebrate each step of the way.  As you notice yourself making different choices, having new thoughts, and taking small, positive steps towards the changes you want; celebrate.  And, if you find yourself forgetting, falling back into old patterns, or unable to take some of these simple actions, celebrate yourself for your awareness and honor your desire to change.  Either way, celebrating and appreciating yourself is essential to the process.
By remembering what we can actually change and how change truly works, we're able to create true miracles in our lives - one-step-at-a-time!

Thursday, 2 September 2010

Invictus by Ernest Henley

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley

Sunday, 22 August 2010

Handling Insults

The Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion. One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.” 

Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?” The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.” 

The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.” “If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy.” 

The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. “You are right, o Enlightened One, “he said. “Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower.” The Buddha answered kindly, “Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me.”

Monday, 16 August 2010

Osho on compromise

Osho: One compromises because one is not certain about one's truth, one is not certain about one's own experience.
The moment you have experienced something, it is impossible to compromise. There is no possibility at all. You compromise only because your idea is only a mind thing, a borrowed thought. You don't know whether it is right or wrong, so even if half proves to be right, it is not a bad bargain.
There is an ancient story in Egypt. Two women came to the court of the king with a small child. They contended -- both of them -- that, "The child belongs to me, he is my child." And each woman was persistent -- "The child is mine."
The king had to decide, and it was very difficult -- how to decide? The husbands of both women had died in war, in the service of the king.
Finally he asked his master, an old wise man. The master came and he said, "It is very simple. Bring the child."
The child was brought to the master, who asked the king to cut him in two, and give half to each woman. "What is the problem? They both say the child is theirs. There being no other evidence, no witness, justice demands that the child should be divided into two."
The king was shocked. He said, "What are you saying?" But before the king could say anything more, the master drew the king's sword out of its sheath. And one woman ran forward and said, "No! Give the child to the other; he is not mine."
The master gave the child to the woman who had run forward and said he was not hers. The king said, "What is happening? I don't understand. The woman is saying the child is not hers."
The master said, "Only the mother couldn't stand to see the child cut in two. The other woman is withstanding it perfectly well, without any difficulty -- if the child is cut in two, it is cut, there is no harm, it is not her child. She is ready to compromise, even if half a dead child is given to her. But the other woman is not ready to compromise -- either the whole child or no child."
When you have a truth, you are almost like a mother -- you have given birth to an experience. Either you would like to have it total, or you would not like to have it at all. But you cannot be ready to cut it in two, because any living experience cut in two becomes dead.  All compromises are dead.
Nobody in the whole history of man who has known anything about truth has ever compromised. Rather, he has been ready to die for it. It happened with al-Hillaj Mansoor. His master Junnaid loved him very much -- he was a man worthy to be loved -- and he tried to persuade him for years, "In your room you can shout Ana'l hag -- `I am God' -- but don't do that in the streets. You know that the people are fanatic, I also know the fact."
But al-Hillaj said, "You only know the fact. I have experienced it. You have compromised with the society, you are a respected teacher. I don't want any respectability, but I will not hide my truth. Truth is like fire, you cannot hide it. I have to shout it from the housetops."
And in a Mohammedan country -- where fanaticism is the rule, not the exception -- he was immediately caught, and brought before the caliph because "This is against our religion; there is only one God, and he is in the heavens. You are just a mortal being. Even Mohammed has not said, `I am God.' He simply says, `I am the messenger of God.' And you are saying that you are God. Are you mad? Either stop it, or death is the only punishment for it."
al-Hillaj said, "Death is accepted, but I cannot compromise on this point. It is my experience, I am god. And I say you are also god -- but your god is asleep and my god is awake."
Junnaid again came into the jail to persuade him, "This is foolish. You are such a beautiful young man, with a great future. You can become a great teacher. I know that what you are saying is right, but can't you compromise?"
al-Hillaj said, "With all honor I want to say to you, you don't know. That's why you have compromised. You have heard -- I have seen. You have read -- I have been. Death does not matter, but compromise is simply out of the question."
And the day he was crucified, thousands of people came to throw stones, to condemn him. Junnaid also came; he loved him, he was his student, and he knew that he had immense possibilities of growth. And he had understood perfectly well that he himself was only knowledgeable, and al-Hillaj had experienced. But this is how compromise works.
Everybody was throwing stones -- not to throw a stone was to risk that people may think, "This man is in favor of al-Hillaj." So he brought a roseflower so that when so many people in the crowd are throwing stones he could throw the roseflower; people will see that he has thrown something, but who knows that he has thrown the roseflower?
The mind of compromise... nobody should suspect that he has not thrown a stone. So he is compromising on two grounds: one with the people, that he has thrown a stone... and he is compromising with al-Hillaj also. Because al-Hillaj must be looking out for Junnaid, to see whether he has come or not, and it would be very cowardly not to go.
al-Hillaj was smiling when stones were showering on him, hurting him, and blood was flowing all over the body. But when the roseflower of Junnaid hit him, he started crying. Tears came to his eyes.
Somebody asked, "What happened? So many stones and you continued to smile, and somebody has thrown a roseflower and tears have come to your eyes."
al-Hillaj said, "Yes, because the people who are throwing stones don't know me. And the person who has thrown the roseflower knows me, knows my truth. But he is a coward, and I am ashamed that I have been a student of this man. Stones don't matter. But this roseflower has hit me hard."
Compromise simply means you are on uncertain ground. Rather than compromising, find grounding, roots, individuality. Find a sincerity of feeling, the support of your heart. Then whatever the consequence, it does not matter. The man who knows, knows perfectly well that no harm is possible. You can kill him, but you cannot harm him.
And the man who does not know is always trembling, always worried. In that worrying and trembling, that anguish, he goes on compromising with everybody -- just to be safe, not to be harmed. But what are you trying to save? You don't have anything to save. Those who have something to save don't compromise.
A man like Socrates is given an opportunity by the judges, that if he leaves Athens... he can live outside of Athens and in this way he can avoid the death penalty. Anybody would suggest that "This is a simple compromise, you can just live outside the boundary lines of Athens" -- because in those days in Greece there were only city-states; every city was a state. Just outside the boundary you were outside the state. He could have lived almost in the suburbs.
But men like Socrates are impossible.He said, "I would rather die than escape. And anyway, I am old. How long I am going to live? And if the most cultured city of these days cannot tolerate me, who is going to tolerate me? It is better to die in Athens than anywhere else -- at least I have the consolation that I am being killed by the most cultured people."
The judges were really trying hard somehow to save him, because he had not committed any crime. It was just that the mob wanted him to be killed -- he was corrupting the youth.
Now, anybody who brings new thoughts to the world can be blamed because he is corrupting the youth -- because he is bound to be against the old ideas, he is bound to fight against the old. You can call it corruption: "He is corrupting our tradition, our religion, our culture."
The judges said, "We have another suggestion: you can live in Athens, but stop talking about truth."
Socrates says, "You are asking me to do the impossible. I will speak about truth and truth alone until my last breath. Do you want me to start speaking lies? Do you want me not to speak at all? -- that too is a lie, because I know the truth and I am not speaking it, and the lie is spreading in people's minds. No, I will be here, and I will speak the truth. It is up to you -- you can kill me. But no compromise on any ground."
Try to find your individuality, your integrity, and make the effort of not compromising. Because the more you compromise, the less you are an individual. You are only a cog in the wheel, just a part in the vast mechanism, just a small part of the mob -- not an individual in your own beauty, in your own right.
I am absolutely against compromise. Death is far more beautiful than a life of compromise.
Source: from book “Beyond Enlightenment” by Osho

Thursday, 12 August 2010

The real doctor is within

The philosophy of natural medicine holds that a weakened immune system is the reason foreign invaders can thrive, producing symptoms and diseases. 

Most of us are taught that we need to go to medical doctors when we get sick. What we aren’t taught is that the real doctor is already within us as the innate wisdom of the body. This is the difference between conventional Allopathic System and Natural Holistic Medicine Systems. The philosophy of natural medicine is that, given the right conditions, the body will heal itself

Whereas the allopathic model tries to control defective body systems through drug intervention, or kill foreign invaders with antibiotics, natural medicine rarely includes toxic agents. Instead, herbs, remedies and other non-invasive therapies are used. These techniques harmoniously help facilitate the repair and strengthening of bodily systems (especially the immune system, which can then properly fight foreign invaders), or help to destroy offending pathogens without toxic side effects. The goal of natural medicine is to figure out why systems have weakened and then repair them, which results in healing. 

In natural medicine, prevention is always considered the first priority. Therefore, much attention is placed on educating the patient about proper diet and other lifestyle choices that affect health. 

The Most Important Story

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The Most Important Story - By Nithya Shanti

Thursday, 29 July 2010

3 Tips to Ease your Life

Although the rhythms and cycles of the universe might seem chaotic at times, they are exquisitely balanced in their constant and never-ending ebb and flow.

In the midst of the heaving sea of energy and information that paradoxically contains absolute nothingness and infinite stillness, we too often forget that we are not only a droplet of this sea, we are the entire sea as well.

Here are 3 tips to help you navigate this sea of invisible forces that influences every aspect of your life, so that your life feels more effortless:

1. Adapt. Sustained positive action is only possible when you constantly adapt to your environment. Adapting means finding constructive ways to either dissipate the tension in your body, or use it to reorganize your body and life. Undesireable habits, procrastination and most physical symptoms are related to a failure to adapt.

2. Accept. Accept the fact that change is constant and permanent. Your mind wants to freeze things in time, make up a story about them and then live in a "concept", so that you're insulated from uncomfortable feelings. Thank your mind for sharing and accept that what you feel is valid and true without trying to change it or justify it. Make the sound or tone of the feeling (this activates your limbic system or emotional brain) instead of holding it in and just being "fine." "Fine" really means "I'm not accepting what I'm really feeling right now."

3. Be Authentic. Authenticity requires the least amount of energy to sustain. This is because when you are congruent and "real", your breath, movement and energy are in-synch. There is no effort. Effort comes from the mind striving to be someone you're not. Work hard, but work hard being you.

If you're accepting who you are, adapting to life's circumstances and authentically being the best you that you can be, you're uplifting the consciousness of our world.

Dr. John

Sunday, 27 June 2010

10 Lessons from Geniuses - Nithya Shanti

I invite you to reflect on and bring into your life these characteristics found in inspiring Geniuses:

1) They know their mission. Or they make one up that inspires them!

2) They take daily action in alignment with their chosen mission.

3) They focus exclusively on thoughts that strengthen that mission. They mentally "cancel" all other ideas immediately, and persistently.

4) They relate to and communicate with others in a sincere, heart warming and loving way.

5) The person / task at hand is treated as the most important person / task in the world.

6) They practice until they are highly efficient and deeply competent.

7) When knowledge is required, they know how to access it immediately.

8) They translate knowledge into clear and definite plans of action.

9) The always act from a place of love, joy and laughter.

10) The most important aspect of all in every Genius, is the complete alignment of their whole being with their life mission.

This much is enough.

Bring these lessons into your life.
Awaken the Genius within.
Come, step forward...the world needs your Genius right now!

Be happy and spread happiness.
Nithya Shanti

PS: This sharing was inspired by David Wolfe & Nick Good

Friday, 25 June 2010

Prayer Request for Sarbari Sen

Some of you are already aware that a member of SSG, Sarbari Sen was detected with breast cancer. She is undergoing intensive chemotherapy. As you know it is a very long drawn and energy sapping process of treatment. I would like you to keep her and her family of a husband, son and daughter in mind for blessings and prayers of healing as they go through this difficult time together. Her treatment would last 18 months in this phase.

We have all learnt about the power of positive visualization. Please see her going through these fortnightly treatments with ease and comfort and minimal side effects. She had the most recent round of chemotherapy yesterday on 24th. Usually it takes her a week to recover. If you can try to send a prayer for her everyday for this week or as frequently as you can, I will be very grateful. I am certain that our collective prayers will ease her discomfort to a large extent.

When we meet on July 17th, we will do a collective visualization for her healing.

Wednesday, 23 June 2010

Wellness Evidence for Gratitude

A large body of recent work has suggested that people who are more grateful have higher levels of well-being.

1. Grateful people are happier, less depressed, less stressed, and more satisfied with their lives and social relationships.

2. Grateful people also have higher levels of control of their environments, personal growth, purpose in life, and self acceptance.

3. Grateful people have more positive ways of coping with the difficulties they experience in life, being more likely to seek support from other people, reinterpreted and grow from the experience, and spend more time planning how to deal with the problem.

4. Grateful people also have less negative coping strategies, being less likely to try and avoid the problem, deny there is a problem, blame themselves, or cope through substance use.

5. Grateful people sleep better, and this seems to be because they think less negative and more positive thoughts just before going to sleep.

Whilst many emotions and personality traits are important to well-being, there is evidence that gratitude may be uniquely important. First, a longitudinal study showed that people who were more grateful coped better with a life transition. Specifically, people who were more grateful before the transition were less stressed, less depressed, and more satisfied with their relationships three months later. Second, two recent studies have suggested that gratitude may have a unique relationship with well-being, and can explain aspects of well-being that other personality traits cannot.

Monday, 21 June 2010

When I born, I black

A poem written by a 7 year old African American boy! (No offence to anyone of any colour!)

When I born, I black.
When I grow up, I black.
When I go in sun, I black.
When I cold, I black.
When I scared, I black.
When I sick, I black.
And when I die, I still black.

You white folks...
When you born, you pink.
When you grow up, you white.
When you go in sun, you red.
When you cold, you blue.
When you scared, you yellow.
When you sick, you green.
When you bruised, you purple.
And when you die, you gray.
So who YOU callin' C O L O R E D ??

Friday, 18 June 2010

Pain Relief Technique

Brazilian Toe Massage. This technique is deeply relaxing and may be helpful for a variety of different types of pain, particularly when associated with stress. It requires a partner and about 15 minutes. The client lies on their back while the partner

sits or stands at their feet, with easy access to the toes. The toes are held in pairs very lightly, both feet at the same time in the sequence which follows, for 3 minutes. When moving between toes, move the thumb then the fingers to the next toe very smoothly and gently. The thumb is on the bottom of the toe and the finger is on the top of the toenail. The sequence is as follows:

1) Middle toe (3rd toe) is held between the partner’s thumb and 3rd finger
2) 4th toe is held between the thumb and 4th finger
3) 5th toe is held between the thumb and 5th finger
4) 2nd toe is held between the thumb and 2nd finger
5) 1st toe is held with the thumb beneath the toe and the 2nd and 3rd fingers holding each side of the base of the nail.

Sunday, 13 June 2010

Prayer Request for Deepika

Most of you know Deepika, the lovely and elegant lady who is the foundation rock of our meditation group (which is now on a summer break till end June.) Deepika recently had a gall bladder operation and is not feeling too well and is in the hospital. I would like you to remember her in your regular prayers and meditations and take a couple of minutes whenever you get this to visualize her as fully healed, healthy, energetic and smiling at home with her loved ones. Please send her your blessings and healing energy.

Thank you.

Saturday, 27 March 2010

FREE 2 Hour Session on "Joy, Peace and Wisdom" in Relationships

April 3rd, 5.15 pm to 7.30 pm in Gurgaon. Our greatest happiness and suffering often arises in the area of our relationships. How can we bring greater joy, peace and wisdom to this important aspect of our life? We invite you to explore this subject in a lighthearted and insightful manner with Nithya Shanti. Please confirm here to reserve your seat.

All contact details in the previous note. Call or email ahead of time. All are welcome.

Tuesday, 23 March 2010

Relationships Joyshop on April 4th in Gurgaon


Our greatest happiness and suffering often arises in the arena of our relationships. How can we bring greater joy, peace and wisdom to this important aspect of our life? We invite you to explore this subject in a lighthearted, insightful and experiential ‘joyshop’ with Nithya Shanti.

Together we will learn practical principles that will help us transform our relationships into vibrant spiritual partnerships. We will discover why talking is not enough to transform a marriage / other close relationship and learn powerful new ways to express our love in appropriate ways. The teaching shared is based on ancient wisdom as well as decades of counseling experience from some of the most respected authorities in the field of relationships.

This is a precious opportunity to learn powerful principles that may otherwise take us decades to gather on our own.


What Is Spiritual Partnership
The Importance of Gratitude
Loving Action 1: Adopt a Spirit of Good Will
Loving Action 2: Give Up Problem Solving
Loving Action 3: Act as If
Loving Action 4: Practice Restraint
Loving Action 5: Balance Giving and Taking
Loving Action 6: Act on Your Own
Loving Action 7: Practice Acceptance
Loving Action 8: Practice Compassion
Love Language 1: Words of Affirmation
Love Language 2: Quality Time
Love Language 3: Acts of Service
Love Language 4: Gifts
Love Language 5: Physical touch
How to Apologize in a way that Heals
A Technique for Releasing Stress and Negativity
Twenty One Day Homework
Conclusion & Feedback

Couples, family members and anyone above the age of fifteen who is eager to learn lifelong relationship skills will benefit from this joyshop. The whole experience is designed to create a fresh enthusiasm, commitment and confidence in awakening Joy, Peace and Wisdom in Relationships.
Our intention is for this to be a deeply healing and transformational program.

Date & Time: Sunday 4th April, 2010 from 10am to 7pm
Venue: 1604, Tower 2, The Palms, South City I, Gurgaon 122001 (Please park your car outside the society)
Investment: Rs. 2,500/- per participant. Rs. 2,000/- per participant of the same family. This covers participant materials, audio CD, lunch & snacks. Please pay in cash at the venue.
Contact Nandini: Tel: 0124-4240526; +91-9871620526;
Limited Seats: There are limited seats. To ensure you have a place, please register early!

Thursday, 18 March 2010

Why Letting Go Works

Many of us were taught to focus relentlessly on the problems we have in order to solve them. In fact, the opposite works. When we focus intensely on the energy of the problem, it can’t get solved because we are in the vibration of the problem, a completely different frequency than the vibration of the solution.

Are you afraid to “let go” of the problem you are focused on? I know that problems and challenges “grab” our attention, they are very good at that. But we need to find new ways to focus if we are going to have any relief from these challenges. I used to feel afraid that if I’m not monitoring one of my problems, it won’t get fixed or solved. But now I know the opposite is true!

Problems can’t get solved when you are focused
on the vibration of the problem… You must be a
vibrational match to the solution in order
for solutions to appear!

When you have been intensely focused on solving a problem, what can you do to change your vibration and release this focus about the issue? Find ways to help you let go, energetically, of the problem:

(1) Focus on gratitude
(2) Use EFT/ Meridian Tapping on your frustration
(3) Get a change of scene – just do something else!
(4) Relax and meditate

These are just a few of the many options you have to getting yourself out of the way so the solution can present itself to you. Remember, the energy of the solution needs room… and if you’re squeezing it out by focusing all your energy on the dynamics of the problem, the solution can’t show up for you.

So when you feel as if you are wrestling with a really big problem, I invite you to start practicing new behaviors in order to allow the solution to come into your life. It won’t come into your life until you let go of the energy of the problem.

Letting Go works because it:

(1) Releases resistance and tension immediately
(2) Raises your vibration
(3) Allows you to access more creativity
(4) Releases “stuck” energy and opens up new options

Remember, the solution may come from an insight, a burst of creativity, or from an outside source. Regardless of where it comes from, it needs to “see you” as having a frequency that matches it. (Yes, I am talking about solutions as if they have personalities, it’s useful in this discussion!) So, to allow the solution in to your consciousness or awareness,

(1) Focus on anything BUT the problem.
(2) Tap to release any compulsion you feel to focus on the energy of the problem.
(3) Write an appreciation list of other solutions you have experienced in your life.
(4) Act as if (and write a Thank you Universe list) you have already received the solution.
(5) Relax…

Remember, the Law of Attraction sends you situations that have the same energy of the vibration you are paying attention to… so pay attention to possible solutions, or at least distract yourself from the energy of the problem, and you will find what you’re looking for.

Tuesday, 2 March 2010

The Sedona Method for Letting Go

Make yourself comfortable and focus inwardly. Your eyes may be open or closed.

Step 1: Focus on an issue that you would like to feel better about, and then allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling in this moment. This doesn’t have to be a strong feeling. In fact, you can even check on how you feel about this exercise and what you want to get from it. Just welcome the feeling and allow it to be as fully or as best you can.

This instruction may seem simplistic, but it needs to be. Most of us live in our thoughts, pictures, and stories about the past and the future, rather than being aware of how we actually feel in this moment. The only time that we can actually do anything about the way we feel (and, for that matter, about our businesses or our lives) is NOW. You don’t need to wait for a feeling to be strong before letting go. In fact, if you are feeling numb, flat, blank, cut off, or empty inside, those are feelings that can be let go of just as easily as the more recognizable ones. Simply do the best you can. The more you work with this process, the easier it will be for you to identify what you are feeling.

Step 2: Ask yourself one of the following three questions:

• Could I let this feeling go?
• Could I allow this feeling to be here?
• Could I welcome this feeling?

These questions are merely asking you if it is possible to take this action. “Yes” or “no” are both acceptable answers. You will often let go even if you say “no.” As best you can, answer the question that you choose with a minimum of thought, staying away from second-guessing yourself or getting into an internal debate about the merits of that action or its consequences.

All the questions used in this process are deliberately simple. They are not important in and of themselves but are designed to point you to the experience of letting go, to the experience of stopping holding on. Go on to Step 3 no matter how you answered the first question.

Step 3: No matter which question you started with, ask yourself this simple question: Would I? In other words: Am I willing to let go?

Again, stay away from debate as best you can. Also remember that you are always doing this process for yourself—for the purpose of gaining your own freedom and clarity. It doesn’t matter whether the feeling is justified, long-standing, or right.

If the answer is “no,” or if you are not sure, ask yourself: “Would I rather have this feeling, or would I rather be free?”

Even if the answer is still “no,” go on to Step 4.

Step 4: Ask yourself this simpler question: When?

This is an invitation to just let it go NOW. You may find yourself easily letting go. Remember that letting go is a decision you can make any time you choose.

Step 5: Repeat the preceding four steps as often as needed until you feel free of that particular feeling.

You will probably find yourself letting go a little more on each step of the process. The results at first may be quite subtle. Very quickly, if you are persistent, the results will get more and more noticeable. You may find that you have layers of feelings about a particular topic. However, what you let go of is gone for good.

Monday, 22 February 2010

Letting Go ~ Author Unknown

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;
It means I can't do it for someone else.

To let go is not to cut myself off...
It's the realization that I can't control another...

To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
I can only change myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.

To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.

To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective,
It is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.

To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.

To let go is to fear less and love more......

Monday, 1 February 2010

Meditation with Nithya Shanti in Gurgaon

Meditation and Happiness Principles, Tuesday, Feb 2nd, 6.15-8.30 pm. 1604, Tower 2, The Palms, South City I, Gurgaon. OPEN TO ALL.
Nithya Shanti is an inspirational speaker, writer, happiness coach, integral healer, educator and modern day sage. He is committed to sharing transformational principles and practices for everyday happiness.

In 2001 he ordained as a forest meditation monk in Thailand. For six years he underwent rigorous monastic training living with meditation masters in remote forests across South East Asia. At a certain stage in his practice he felt guided to shift his emphasis from secluded sadhana to engaged spirituality.

Nithya Shanti spreads happiness by example, by being a shining presence of joy and gratitude. He is gifted in the ability to share profound teachings in light hearted ways. His capacity to inspire, elucidate complex subjects and offer practical transformational teachings has been appreciated by friends around the world.

Call 9871620526 to confirm and for directions.

Sunday, 17 January 2010

Kids "Joyshop" with Nithya Shanti in Gurgaon

A joyful session ONLY for youngsters (8-15 years) on 24th Jan, '10 Sunday (9am - 6pm) in Gurgaon. An experiential, interactive and non-serious joyshop. This is a time to reconnect with what’s truly important in our lives. We'll discuss and experience how to live in a more harmonious joyful playful way and also achieve extraordinary results.

There will be short movies, games, interactive exercises and some wonderful short meditations that will also help us concentrate better in school. The last time some young friends attended a similar session, one of them said, "It was the best class of my life!" Of-course thats not guaranteed to happen again!! Then again, it just may!

Remember, this is a JOY-shop not a workshop! So please, only come if you really WANT to come, not because you have been ASKED to come. :)

Date: 24th Jan, 2010 (Sunday).
Time: 10am to 7pm
Age Group: 8-15 years
Investment: Rs. 1,500/- per child; Rs. 2,500/- for two siblings
Address: South City I, Gurgaon
Contact: Lavleen +91-9999030338

Friday, 8 January 2010

15 Simple Ways to be Happier in 2010

"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." ~ Marcus Aurelius Antoninus
With Marcus Aurelius Antoninus' quote in mind, I invite you to explore these 15 Simple Ways to create happiness in 2010!

1. Be your own BFF (best friend forever). Enjoy your own company. Embrace everything about you! Without a doubt, it's the most important step towards being a happy person.

2. Smile, giggle, snicker, or chuckle! Smiling releases serotonin in the brain, whi

ch instantaneously gives your mood a lift.
3. Dream big in every area of life. Set your life in motion and manifest your heart's desire.

4. Shut the doors and the windows tight! And then put on your favorite song and sing out loud. Let it rip!

5. Cook a healthy, delicious meal. Serve it up pretty and savor the flavor, one bite at a time.

6. Expect a miracle. Believe that something wonderful will happen for you today. The universe is waiting to shower happy blessings on you.

7. Meditate, pray and chant. Research shows that people who are spiritual tend to be happier and healthier than those who are not.

8. Pull up your best pair of warm socks. Wiggle your toes and enjoy a cozy kind of bliss.

9. Sleep baby sleep. Seven or eight hours each night should increase your energy and decrease your moodiness.

10. Count your blessings daily. Gratitude, the emotion of thankfulness, is one of the key ingredients for living a happy life. Make gratitude a habit and happiness will be yours.

11. Wake up early! Start the day off on a happy foot, with a happy thought. The morning hours are full of spiritual energy and prana (life force).

12. Let the sun shine in. 20 minutes of sunlight per day improves mood and wards of Seasonal Affection Disorder (SAD).

13. Take a hot bath. Feel the tension melt away as you sink into a pool of happiness.

14. Say "Good Job!" Give yourself permission to pat yourself on the back. Recognize your accomplishments and positive qualities.

15. Happiness is contagious! Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values, your goals and dreams.

Monday, 4 January 2010

Five Resolutions for a Spiritual New Year

Every year we make resolutions with the intention of "getting it right" this year. We vow to lose weight, join a gym or quit smoking, but it seems by the time January 2 rolls around, we already doubt our ability to keep them. And by the second or third week of the month they are a distant memory.

This year, instead of making your usual resolutions, try a few that will connect you with your higher self, and with the Divine source inside us all. If you start here, all your usual resolutions will fall into place.

Here are five spiritual resolutions worth making and keeping this year:

1. Spend time quieting your mind every day. Meditation, whether using a mantra or simply concentrating on your breath, can help you connect to the truth and strength within. It will raise your vibration, lower your blood pressure and improve your life in countless ways.

2. Every morning when you wake up and every evening when you go to sleep, check in with your angels and spirit guides. Thank them for their guidance and ask them to open your eyes, ears and heart to the messages and signs they send you throughout the day -- then pay attention to them when they come your way!

3. Create a gratitude journal and write down five things you are grateful for each day. Then write down five things you want to attract in your life as if you have already received them, and thank the Divine for sending them into your life.

4. Come up with at least five ways to give back – to your friends, family, community or the world. Whether you volunteer at a local community center, nursing home or hospital; create a family game night where once a month you come together with family to laugh, love and have fun; or donate to a charity such as Habitat for Humanity, or your local PBS Television station, do something to give back without expecting anything in return.

5. Make a list of affirmations to say to yourself as you are getting ready for the day, or getting ready for bed. Concentrate on topics where you are trying to manifest something, or an area of your life you want to improve. For example, for abundance and money, "Signs of abundance are all around me, and money flows to me easily and often." For health and healing, "My body is healthy, whole and complete. I feel better with each passing day. All is well."

Happy New Year from Elevated Existence Magazine! May this year be filled with blessings and love for us all!

Tammy Mastroberte
Founder, Publisher & Editorial Director
Elevated Existence Magazine

Friday, 1 January 2010

Downloading Meditation for 2010

A friend shared a powerful process to enter the new year with me.
It is based on using our intention in a very specific, yet comprehensive way.
Whether or not you completely understand all the terms used or how it works,
I encourage you to give it a try. Do it joyfully, like an experiment.
You are likely to be pleasantly surprised and feel very blessed by the end of it.

To make the most of this process, I recommend:

1) Find a quiet place where you can have about 15 to 20 mins of personal time.
2) Begin by placing the tips of your fingertips together and feel the gentle sensations of doing so.
3) Then read aloud or inwardly the intention given below.
4) At every place where it says "pause", feel a brilliant and pure violet light rushing through your being from the crown of your head, energizing and clarifying every cell of your being down to the tips of your toes.
5) Read the next line once you feel inwardly complete.

In this way read the entire prayer below.

I wish you and your family a Divine 2010. May you be happy!


Nithya Shanti

Downloading Peace and Presence from the causal body of God:

Through the Presence of God, I AM, I Invoke:

My Father-Mother God, My I AM Presence, the I AM Presences of ALL Humanity, and the entire Company of Heaven.

I invoke the full-gathered momentum of the 5th-Dimensional Violet Flame.

I ask the I AM Presence of each member of my family, my friends, and the entire Family of Humanity to downloaded these programs for each person according to his or her highest good and their individual Divine Plans: And I begin...

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for the Infinite Flow of God’s Abundance, Opulence, Financial Freedom, and the God-Supply of ALL good things. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for Eternal Youth, Vibrant Health, Radiant Beauty, and Slim, Firm, Flawless Form. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for Perfect Health Habits including Eating and Drinking Habits, Exercise Habits, Work Habits, Relaxation and Recreation Habits, Spiritual Devotion, Meditation, and Contemplation Habits. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for Divine Family Life, Loving Relationships, Adoration, Divine Love, Divine Sexuality, True Understanding, Clear and Effective Communication, Open Heart Sharing, Oneness, and the Unification of the Family of Humanity. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for Eternal Peace, Harmony, Balance, and Reverence for ALL Life. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for Self-Empowerment, Success, Fulfillment, Divine Purpose, A Rewarding Career, Self Esteem, Spiritual Development, Enlightenment, Divine Consciousness, and Divine Perception. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for the Perception and Open Heart and Mind Telepathic Communication with the Company of Heaven and the Angelic and Elemental Kingdoms. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for Inspired Creativity through Music, Singing, Sound, Toning, Dance, Movement, Art, and Education. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for Laughter, Joy, Playfulness, Fun, Self-expression, Elation, Enthusiasm, Bliss, Ecstasy, Wonder, and Awe. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

Beloved I AM Presence, download now the programs from the Causal Body of God for the physical manifestation of Heaven on Earth. (pause)

The programs are successfully downloaded, and my I AM Presence now scans through all facets of my Being and transmutes and deletes anything that conflicts with these programs. (pause)

I now ACCEPT and KNOW through every fiber of my Being that these programs from the Causal Body of God have been successfully downloaded. I also ACCEPT and KNOW that my I AM Presence will update these programs every single day and continually delete anything in my Being that conflicts with these programs.

In deep Humility, Divine Love and Gratitude I Decree,
It is done.
And so it is.
Beloved I AM, Beloved I AM, Beloved I AM

Source :
Patricia Diane Cota-Robles